Recent studies have made new discoveries about the life of an adopted child and his or her parents. While foster care aims to provide these children with a normal lifestyle, there are key differences that cannot be overlooked. Using the term adverse child experiences (ACEs), foster children are at nearly double the risk of these difficult situations. Many of them see parents hitting one another or arguing vehemently on a daily basis. These violent actions can have negative effects on the child’s life and the way they conduct themselves in society. Parental divorce is also much more likely to occur. It is a common misconception that adoption only affects the child. Even though the couple might be harmonious upon adoption, their views on the world can change over time. These risks have increased over the past decade, and experts want to put an end to this trend.
Income is another major implication. Adopted children are more likely to be placed in low income households that do not have adequate resources to support their youth. In other cases, the parents might be unwilling to make a full economic commitment, leaving the child with few other places to go. In coming years, the national federation is looking to impose economic rules that will guarantee hospitality for each child. They refer to moral standards across the globe when making decisions in this manner. Adoption is supposed to be an intimate process that links strangers in incredible ways. When this bond is broken due to unfortunate living circumstances, something needs to change. The world of foster care has changed for the better and worse over the past few years. If we can enlighten people about these harsh realities, they will be more inclined to support movements that fund abortion. As tough as it is, adoption has limits that we need to overcome.
When Shaun Lokey mentioned that he wanted to adopt children, his wife, Anna, was unsure about it at first. Anna did not think that she would be able to take care of the children. In fact, she did not think she was being a good mother to her own children.
Anna was also hurt by something that happened earlier in her life. Her parents had wanted to adopt a little girl, but the adoption was never finalized. The girl’s relative decided that they wanted to raise the child.
When Anna mentioned that she did not want to adopt a child, Shaun did not discuss the topic with her for a few years. He showed Anna an adoption video, and she changed her mind. Shaun reassured Anna that adoption was not about being a perfect parent. It was about participating in the children’s lives.
Anna eventually agreed to adopting the children. The Lokeys were already parents to three children, and they decided to adopt three more. Anna once thought that it would be a burden to take care of someone else’s child. She now considers it a privilege.
The Lokeys’ children were adopted from China. More Chinese children are adopted in America than any other country in the world. One of the reasons that the Lokey decided to adopt children from China is because the adoption process was straight forward and easy. The adoption costed anywhere from $20,000 to $50,000. Most of the expenses were related to travel.
Shaun encourages parents who are interested in adopting children should look into different programs. Lily was the first child that the couple adopted. She was adopted in 2010 when she was two-years-old. Judah was the second child. He was adopted in 2012 when he was six-years-old. Milo was adopted in 2014 when he was three-years-old.
Anna and Shaun have had their share of challenges with the children. The language and culture barriers were just two of the many challenges the couple faced. However, they have managed to adapt.