Portland adoptive parents claim they were called to do this

Alden Maynards seemed somewhat like a normally boy when his foster parents met him. He couldn’t focus or pay attention. The Maynards felt his problems went beyond that. Despite seeing these issues, something stirred the people who would become Alden’s adoptive father and mother to take in the child as their foster son. They described it as being called to do it.

Alden and his parents arrived 3 years later in a family court. The child held helium balloons in his hand and did not seem to notice the judge sitting in the bench above him. The toddler may have vaguely comprehended that the impacts of this proceeding would effect his life, but he was more concerned about having fun than the adoption proceedings going on around him.

Even though the toddler may not have known the seriousness of what was going on around him, the Maynards did. They wanted to make sure the child remained a part of their life. At least they want him to remain a part of their life until adulthood. They want to make sure they do everything they can for the boy and the rest of their family.

The foster care of many states can cause children to live in many homes, especially in their teenage years, but this is usually not the case for children who are adopted. They keep close ties with their adoptive parents, even after they find out who their birth parents are.

Many parents who adopt children feel the same way. They are often called to adopt a particular child. It may or may not be for religious reasons. Regardless of why people adopt children, it is something that often takes a special breed of person.

Adopting From Foster Care

As of July 2017, it has been apparent that foster care adoption is the a preferred choice for those who wish to become parents. However, according to an article from Washington Post, it is mentioned that the process for foster care is unbearably frustrating, as none of the foster parents have any form of control over the end result, and are aware that their foster child may not be the permanent addition they wanted.

Fortunately, they mention throughout the piece that terminating the rights of the biological family is on the horizon. This not only promises a permanent family to those foster children, but those who are foster parents as well. Many organizations and charities have devoted their time and energy into foster children, taking into consideration their preference on school, name change, location, and close friends as well as making sure they have a permanent home.

The article also name drops a few celebrities who have adopted from foster care, such as Scott Shriner from Weezer, his wife and author, Jillian Lauren, and Jon Bon Jovi. Many biological families come back for their child in foster care, automatically gaining the rights to raise them once again, but many foster parents don’t believe that’s fair. It can take anywhere between two or three years to several before that child is considered “free to adopt” and there’s still no guarantee that the biological parents of those foster kids wouldn’t try to regain their rights, even after the adoption process is complete. Many foster parents feel as if they are living on eggshells, constantly wondering when they will lose the child they are beginning to love more and more. Courts overlook a lot of the emotional repercussions of these situations, but those who wish to be, or are already foster parents, understands and accepts the consequences of adoption from foster care. Not only can it be burdensome, but foster children don’t normally range in the infants and toddler stages. Foster children are usually old enough to know what’s going on, which can have some serious emotional damage, thus requiring therapy. This could happen with foster kids at any age, but it is more common to occur in those who are older and more developed.

Connecticut Foster and Adoption Organizations Try To Raise Awareness

Being a foster parent, and adopting a child, is two of the most significant ways to show compassion and love. One town wants to raise awareness about the growing need for foster and adoptive homes. The Foster, Adoptive, and Kinship Coalition Team of Connecticut is hosting a special event to raise awareness to the ever-growing demand. With more than 428,000 children in the US foster care system, help is needed.


On Saturday, the United Church of Christ at 283 Main St. in Sandbury, will hold the event. Here, several agencies and supports from many communities will gather to answer questions from prospective families. The various organizations will have informational booths set up to help people understand the process and to learn what they need to do.


Unlike international adoption, domestic adoption comes with financial assistance and little to no out of pocket costs. Many people hear horror stories about foster care and adopting and shy away from this, even though their heart tells them to help a child. The few stories that leak into the news are always about the dysfunctional and often downsides of the system. However, it seems like the good things are never mentioned.


This event will help to boost the number of foster and adoptive homes in Connecticut. The Department of Job and Family Services will be on-site to help families register. The free training is very informative and required. Though, foster parents are reimbursed for their time. Fostering-to-adopt is the easiest way to adopt a child in the United States. It allows a child to be placed into a home for six months or more and the family can decide whether to move forward with making the child a permanent part of their family.


Last year’s event was a smashing success, and the number of fostering and adoptive parents increased. The demand is still high. The organizations hope that they will see even better results, this year, from a higher turnout.

The Biracial Word Of Adoption

The Adoption Of The First Child

Recently, splinternews.com Splinternews.com did an article about a young couple that decided to make the decision to adopt children. Meg St-Esprit is a freelance writer who lives in Pittsburgh. She and her husband decided that they wanted to find their own religion. They went on a search for God, and they found a church that they really loved. After getting acquainted with the members of the church, St-Esprit and her husband began the process of adopting their first child. Their son was a local blue-eyed, blond haired boy. All of the members of the church were happy for the family. The church members congratulated them , cried with them, hugged them, and made Meg St-Esprit and her husband feel like heroes for adopting such a beautiful child.


Adopting Black Children

Meg St-Esprit wrote an article about the different experience that she and her husband had after adopting adopting two black children. St-Esprit felt like the members of her church had rejected her black babies, and she was very surprised that many of them showed racist attitudes. It was something that she never realized because she is a white woman herself who does not have a prejudice bone in her body. Because of so many racist comments that were directed towards her children, St-Esprit and her husband decided to move to a new area. The family also found a new accepting church.


My Take On The Experience

The experience of Megan St-Esprit and her husband is deeply saddening and also moving. It shows that there are many people who are hiding racist feelings, but it also shows that people like Meg St-Esprit and her husband exist as well. They are amazing people who truly do not see race; they only see love and hope. It is wonderful to read a story about people who are so open and loving. I hope that St-Esprit and her family find peace in their new church and acceptance in their new location.

6,000 Children In Texas Need A Home

There were 5,000 children adopted in the state of Texas last year. Even though there were a lot of children adopted, there are still a lot of children waiting for a home. According to the Texas Department of Family and Protective Families, there are 6,000 children in Texas who are waiting to be adopted. The average age of a child adopted in the state of Texas is 5.


Teenagers and older children often stay in the foster care until they reach 18. Many people prefer to adopt younger children because they believe that older children are unadoptable. However, it is important for teens to have a stable household in order to grow into a productive adult.


There will be events held throughout the country this month in order to raise awareness about adoption. People will also be educated about the adoption process. How do children cope with foster care until they are adopted? What options do potential parents have in Texas? What requirements must be met in order for one to adopt in Texas? Those are some of the questions that will be answered at various events.


Jeremy Spencer, who is a police officer in San Antonio, will be speaking at one of the adoption events in Texas. He is the parent of two adopted children. Tim Gebel is a program administrator who works for the Texas Department of Families and Protective Services Region 8. He will also be speaking at one of the adoption events in Texas.


Anais Biera is the chief public relations officer for the Children’s Shelter-San Antonio. He is another one of the people who will be speaking at an adoption event.

New York Times Discusses Open Adoption

With open adoption being a fairly new legal process that many prospective adoptive parents have many questions about, the New York Times recently decided to publish an article discussing the implications and possible impact of an open adoption. By using one family participating in an open adoption as a case study, Ryan Smith discussed the benefits, drawbacks, and potential concerns of open adoption to help families struggling with the decision. According to Smith, thousands of children and adoptive parents are involved in open adoptions ever year in the United States. Many of the parents keep in touch with the adoption agencies during the process and often openly discuss their experiences with open adoption.

Smith used the Cadence family as an illustration for open adoptions in his article. Shandra and Bill Cadence reside in the suburbs of New York City and have adopted three siblings from the same family in an open adoption process. When discussing the open adoption process with Smith, the Cadence family revealed their intentions to adopt only one child in this manner. After adopting the first child from a mother who was not suitable to raise children at the time, the Cadence family received information that the mother had become pregnant a second time. Not wanting the mother’s second child and their adopted child’s sibling to be abandoned or raised by anther family, the Cadence family chose to adopt the second and third child as a part of their family. The family’s open adoption process is both rewarding and difficult. The Cadences revealed that they enjoyed the aspect of open adoption that allowed their children to know and love their biological mother as an extended member of their family. The family is also frequently disappointed, however, at the mother’s inconsistent behavior. Her visits with her biological children are sometimes frequent, but are sometimes missing altogether. This inconsistency often upsets the adoptive children.

Ultimately, Smith reported that the Cadence family are pleased with the fact that the open adoption has allowed them to have a relationship with the biological mother that would not have been possible in a closed adoption.

Exposing the Stigmas and Adoption Myths

November holds a holiday that most don’t celebrate. National Adoption Day is an occasion set aside to remember all the families who were brought together by love not birth. Adoption can be a beautiful thing. Bringing a child into your home and loving them with your whole heart is something that many desire to do. Domestic adoptions are surrounded by myths and lies that make many prospective families look the other way. Natalie Brumfield, a mother of three adoptive kids, wants to set the record straight about adoption.

Many people feel that they can’t love an adopted child as much as they would a biological one. In fact, nothing could be further from the truth. People need to have realistic expectations with adoption. Not every child is going to bond with a family, and that can be true of an adoptive or biological child. With adoption, there is a bit more choice. However, the love between a child and their caretaker can happen very quickly. The nurturing and attending to that child and helping them heal their wounds can bring about an incredible bond.

The second myth that most people talk about is that it’s easier to abort the baby rather than giving it up for adoption. Many people are against abortion because it’s taking the life of a child. Adoption gives a child the chance to live. Birth mothers can select the family that adopts their child in some cases. Not every store is about child and family services coming in and taking the child and taking away the mother’s rights. In many instances, the mother has a choice.

Lastly, people feel that adoption is too expensive. If you are considering international adoption, it can cost anywhere from $20,000 to $100,000. However, adopting through a local state agency is much different. They will pay for all the home studies, physicals, and any other necessary paperwork to get the process through the courts. Many states will also pay the legal fees for an attorney during the process. In short, the total for a domestic adoption can be anywhere from $200-$8,000 with the state’s assistance.

As the country celebrates another National Adoption Day, those who are interested in adopting a child should realize that there are options available. Everyone wants a baby these days, but even with state assisted cases, getting a newborn is still a possibility.

More Single Men Adopting Children

The vast majority of people who adopt children are married couples. However, more single men are opting to adopt children. Steven Arauz, who is a teacher in Florida, decided to adopt a child as a single man.

Steven adopted a 10-year-old boy named Quinton. Steven first met Quinton when he was a student in his class. Quinton was a troubled child. He had been in foster care since he was five-years-old. He was also overweight and suffered from anxiety. He also detested physical and emotional affection because he had no idea what love was.

Things were rocky when Steven first brought Quinton to his home. He did not do well in school and was destroying the apartment. Steven wanted to give up. He contacted the foster care agency and told them that he did not know if he could do it.

However, Quinton eventually got on the right track. He received counseling and his grades improves. Steven also put Quinton on a vegetarian diet, which helped him lose weight. Quinton told Steven that he loved him after three months.

Quinton’s parents had lost their rights, and Quinton was now available for adoption. However, Steven was not sure he could be a full-time parent. He was only 27 at the time and unmarried. Steven’s counselor pointed out that he would make a great parent because Quinton had made amazing progress in just a few months.

Steven officially adopted Quinton in 2016. Kathy Ledesma is the national project director of AdoptUSKids. She stated that bias in the child welfare system is one of the things that keeps single men from adopting. Many people believe that children need a mother more than they need a father. However, she stated that gender, national origin or ethnicity does not determine whether one will make a good parent.

Adoptive Parent Discusses Journey With Fertilization Treatments

In an article which was recently published by the BBC News Outlet, an adoptive parent discussed her lengthy journey through infertility, depression, hope, in vitro fertilization treatments, and the adoption process. The article was published as a part of the BBC’s effort to highlight adoption as a worthy choice for American families. In 2017, it was revealed that more than 200,000 children were waiting, during any given year, to be adopted by loving and supportive parents. The combination of declining birth rates, a higher age of adulthood among Americans, and a higher projected income among the current generation of young adults has made adoption a more likely option for families that it has been in half a century. Because of these combined factors, several families who have adopted children within the last decade or so have been asked to discuss the factors that led them to adoption and the adoption process.

Sophie S. of Philedelphia and her husband Johney had longed for a child since they wed in the early 2000s, but like many American families, they felt it best to become settled in their careers before introducing children to their tiny family. After spending years building carers and enjoying the married life without children, the couple finally decided that the time was right to introduce children into their home. After trying for two years, however, Sophie realized that there was a problem with the natural process between the the two of them. The couple sought out a professional opinion and quickly leaned that in vitro fertilization would be one of the only ways that they could achieve a viable pregnancy. The couple’s hopes of creating a family were dashed with this new realization. After all, they were an average American family who had not saved the funds to pay for the expensive in vitro fertilization process.

After struggling through depression as a couple and later resolving to personally fund the in vitro process, the couple attempted six treatments before choosing to adopt. Sophie and Johney are now the proud parents of a 5 year old adopted daughter.

What It Takes to Adopt a Child and Parent a Kid

Being a parent is one of the most difficult undertakings in the world today. One thing you need to know is that this process does not come with a guide and there is actually no right or wrong way to go about this. While this is true, it’s equally true to note that this process gets even harder when adopting and raising an adopted child, nonetheless it can be managed.

Since time immemorial, parents have been adopting children and this process has been nothing short of a roller coaster of mixed emotions and paper burden. However, thanks to the vast wealth of experience having adopted a kid on my own, I seek to make this process less bearable to anyone involved. This said however, I must caution anybody planning to adopt a child that due diligence and getting to know the process. While the adoption process may vary from one family to another below are some of the basics you need to familiarize with.

Decide to adopt

Child adoption can be quite rewarding if you get your footing right in the process. While this is true, this miracle can also cause you your family. Therefore before you get into the process ensure that you are right to adopt and that adopting a kid is healthy to your family. You will have to consult your family on this.

Research and choose an adoption

Research is your best friend when it comes to adopting a child. Get to understand the legalities and what type of adoption will suit you and your family. Doing this will help you avoid the many avoidable hiccups in the future.

Adopting and raising a child can be tricky but with the right kind of help all will. Use the above tips to get started.