Adoption and Fostering Change The Lives Of Children

Many step parents, foster parents and wonderful individuals step up to become true parents to children. Being a parent is not something that everyone can do, if it were then foster care wouldn’t be over filled with children in need of loving families. Recently one ten year old California boy understood exactly what a real father was. When Kalani Watson asked his mother how he could make his last name the same as hers and his step dads she explained the entire process to him. Kalani loves his step dad Brandon Williamson and decided to ask him to officially adopt him. During his birthday party Kalani read a note that he wrote and Brandon agreed to begin the adoption process. It will take some time but it will create the sense of family that Kalani is seeking.

In a simliar incident, foster mom Milli Holloman made a decision to start the adoption process of her foster child Vera Wren. She knew that she was missing something from her life and that she needed to be Vera’s mom. While Milli didn’t intent to gain any publicity for her adoption she hopes that her viral photo shoot inspires more people to open their homes and hearts to becoming foster parents. One the adoption was completed, Milli decided to incorporate a photo shoot for her friends and family. She is a photographer and wanted each person who had a part in the adoption process to hold up a sign stating what their part in the process was. A judge held a sign that read “Today I Saw A Happy Ending” and her nieces and nephews held a sign that said “Today We Have Another Cousin”. Adoption and fostering can change the lives of children seeking stability and love.

Carson Petersen’s Dream Finally Comes True as a Loving Family adopts him after 13 Years in the Foster Care System

The final preparations for adoption signal a new and most probably a happy beginning to most children in foster care. Such a euphoric feeling resonated with 18-year-old Carson Petersen as his adoption was finalized in a California court. Carson finally managed to find a haven in the private comfort of his foster parents, Renee and Tex Petersen, despite spending over ten years moving around the foster system.

While addressing journalists from ABC News on June 30, Carson couldn’t help but describe the feeling as “emotional” as he could finally let go of the past and look forward to the future. Carson initially entered the foster care system as a 3-year-old following the sudden demise of his mother. Having attained the age of 8 years, the system deemed it necessary to place him under his father’s custody. However, he was later reabsorbed into the system after being homeless for a few years.

According to him, such a period mainly manifested toxic behavior characterized by the consumption of alcohol and drugs. Before meeting the Petersen’s, Carson behavior drastically reformed and ultimately earned him an opportunity with the loving and caring Christian family. More importantly, they embraced him as their “son” rather than “foster son” which was pretty awesome. Carson recalls the exact moment he had managed to master some courage and ask the Petersen’s to adopt him as their son, especially after having lived with them for a while.

Based on Tex Petersen’s perspective, the idea struck him with positive relocation as he intended on providing unconditional love and support to the young Carson. In most situations, parents tend to reflect on the idea before making any informed decision. However, this adoption process proved to be different as the trio had built a loving support system.

On the adoption day, Renee Petersen gushed about Carson as a young man blessed with the ability to help others in need.

How One Couple Is Helping Kids And Spreading A Powerful Message Through Adoption

One Arizona mom is making a big difference in the lives of orphaned kids. Both she and her husband have adopted a total of four kids so far. They are planning to adopt another girl in the near future. Together the Gagnon couple has six kids, which includes four adopted kids and two biological ones.

Stacey Gagnon is not just adopting any children. She and her husband are adopting orphaned kids that nobody wants because they have severe defects or disorders. One of her adopted kids named Joel has only one ear and suffers from a facial deformation. Another of the couple’s adopted kids has spina bfida and needs a wheelchair for mobility. Additionally, another one of her adopted kids has suffered traumatic brain injury. Yet another adopted child needs a feeding tube in order to survive.

The nurse and mother of six kids says she is heartbroken by the fact that nobody seems to want these kids. They are often cast aside by their own parents and families. Due to the fact that nobody wants them, they are often taken into state care. Conditions and care at some of these orphanages can be abysmal. So Stacey and her husband who is a school teacher are adopting these kids and giving them a loving home.

Stacey Gagnon says that it is very difficult to be a parent of an adopted child and even more difficult when that child has a severe deformity and illness. In these cases it is even more important to let these kids know that you love them and that you will be there for them. Many of the orphaned kids have faced stares and gasps from their fellow peers, which Mrs. Gagnon says is very painful to experience. She recently made a stir on the web when she called out kids for staring and gasping at one of her adopted sons during a church event. Her posting was aimed at encouraging empathy and understand of sickly and deformed children such as her own adopted kids.

Dealing With The Departure Of Your First Foster Child

As a licensed foster parent, it becomes very challenging trying to let go of a child you have loved and parented for a lengthy period. A greater challenge is attempting to adjust to the arrival of a new child fresh after the departure of your first foster child. Letting go of your first foster child leaves you under a great deal of mental, emotional, and physical strain. This is because you have very high expectations thinking that you will be able to adopt this child.

The strain experienced comes from the uncertainty of adopting this child, coursing through the bureaucratic red tape of a failed system, and having to say goodbye to someone who has grown to become part of your family. This means that as a foster parent, falling short in one experience can significantly drain your energy and morale. One reason that can cause your foster child to leave is if they are reunited with their biological relatives. However, when you decide to do it again, you will be more prepared to deal with the dilemma of the possible outcome.

It is essential to pick yourself up quickly because the American foster child system is never short of children who are in need of a family. Even though the departure of a foster child is accompanied by a deep sense of loss, preparing yourself emotionally will assist you to get back on your feet. Most foster parents have to be optimistic and hope that every time they take in a child, the probability of adoption is very high. This will enable you to realize that your current foster child is not there to replace or displace the previous one but to offer a new beginning.

The panic associated with meeting a new child is most likely based on the subconscious need to fill the void left by your previous foster child. However, the only way to go about this is to treat each experience separately, start afresh, and make the most out of every situation.

Queensland Advocates for Equality in Adoption of Children

Same-sex couples and single people have been discriminated for a long time, especially regarding adoption of children. However, in Queensland, the Labor bill passed the reform of the state’s adoption laws after a debate with the esteemed Speaker casting the final vote. Therefore, same sex couples and couples seeking fertility treatments were allowed to register themselves on the adoption register.

Insights of the Supporting Party

Shannon Fentiman, a famed Government minister, expressed her joy of passing the bill that previously discriminated the same-sex couples. She mentioned that Queensland community had prevented these individuals from meeting the needs of children through adoption. She added that children’s needs should be prioritized and met without considering the parents’ sexuality or their single status. Shannon cited that these individuals encouraged a positive relationship and a nurturing and supportive home for children.

The Opposition Party’s Views

Ros Bates, an opposition MP, cited that the action of allowing adoption of children by same-sex couples was because of the minimum number of adoptions in Queensland annually. Bates also argued that Queensland had a limited number of children seeking adoption; therefore, it was inadequate to guarantee a relaxation of the adoption eligibility criteria.
A Touching Testimony

Steven Miles, a well-known Labor MP, cited that he was aware of a same-sex couple that became foster parents to a young boy. The couple nurtured and loved him despite his worst behaviors. As a result, the boy learned to understand and reciprocate their love. Steven mentioned that the young boy is currently proud of the couple and wants them to officially adopt him since they helped him overcome his sad past during the last five years. The Queensland bill of same-sex couples and single people’s adoption rights has earned the state popularity, unlike the Northern Territory of Australia and South Australia that still prohibits adoption by same-sex couples.

Parents of Adopted Children Face More Special Education Challenges

Studies show that adopted children suffer from learning disabilities at more than twice the rate of children born biologically to both parents. The result is that many parents of adopted children find themselves in need of professional special education services.

It brings up a lot of issues, including the possible need to find a special needs private school, or if the child attends a public school, making sure that this public institution has the proper resources to handle disabilities. Some parents resort to home schooling while others hire outside private professional help.

Although it is well known that children of adoptive parents have a significantly higher rate of learning disabilities and other issues, finding reliable data to back it up has been elusive so far. Studies have been done, but statistical results vary widely.

For example, a study conducted at Illinois State University found that fully 40 percent of kids that are adopted are receiving special education services. But another similar study done by the Institute of Family Studies came in with a rate of 24 percent.

Although these results are highly at variance statistically, it is an almost certainty that when looking at all children – both adopted and those belonging to natural parents together – the rate of special needs is 10 percent of all students.

What does it mean? The implications are many. For one, parents who are considering adoption should be aware that the child they plan to adopt is much more likely to require expensive, long-term special education resources.

Other implications from the statistics concern funding decision for various government programs. When lawmakers formulate budgets for special education having reliable data on how much to spend on such resources is critical.

The bottom line, however, is that adopted kids are more likely to require special education resources.

Adoption and Being a Parent to an Adopted Child

Anna Lokey’s husband, Shaun broached the idea of adopting a child, which took her off guard, to the extent that she considered it an understatement. She felt she wasn’t ready to bring up someone else’s child, whereas the husband took it as his duty to adopt a child owing to his childhood experience and upbringing. After a few years, Shaun shared a video with his wife on adoption and beseeched her that it was not about being a perfect parent, but rather being available and participating in their daily lives. It took a long conversation and prayers to have the couple add three more children to their three biological children.

Being a Parent of an Adopted Child

According to Shaun, adoption can be quite exhaustive and expensive. The cost in 2016 stands from $ 20,000 to $ 50,000 per child. The costs are distributed to travel, paperwork and licensing. Prospective parents should look into grant programs. Anna and Shawn adopted Lily in 2010 when she was only two years old, Judah in 2010 at age 6 and Milo in 2014 when he was three years. Each child comes with unique challenges. For instance, Judah had some roots in his language and culture.

Challenges that come along with adoption

The language barrier is also one of the problems faced and the time is taken to adapt. It is also an uphill task trying to connect with your children emotionally since the young adopted children are slow to warm up to their new homes, surroundings, and parents. You have to deal with your fears of rejection and the many ups and downs.

Statistics on adoption and parenting in the U.S Alone

More than 110,000 children were adopted in 2016 according to the National Council for Adoption, a figure down from 2007’s 133,000. The decline is attributed to the drop in foreign adoption and the harsh economic conditions. The State Department reports that in 2016, parents in the United States adopted 5,372 children from other countries, compared to 22,884 children in 2004. The figure has been consistently declining every year since that peak.

The Grueling Process of Adopting a Child

If you are interested in adopting a child, you are probably just getting started with what you need to do. You might be surprised to find out that there is a lot that goes into adopting a child, whether you’re trying to adopt in the country or in a different country altogether. No matter where you’re looking to adopt, it’s vital that you work through a professionally licensed adoption agency. These agencies specifically work with parents who would like to adopt a child and need help with the grueling and often lengthy process.

 

When you meet with the adoption agency, they will run you through a series of tests to ensure that you’re a viable candidate to adopt. Not every parent is a good fit for adoption, and these agencies want to decipher between different folks to find the right one. This might involve health checks, home checks and even a psych evaluation to ensure that you and your partner are stable enough to raise a child. Once you’ve been approved for adoption, you’ll be put onto a waiting list for either a baby, child or teenager depending on who you’d like to be part of your family.

 

The process of adopting is long, grueling and tiresome. In most cases, you should expect to pay tens of thousands of dollars just to adopt one child. This is an incredibly expensive fee that most parents just cannot afford, but it is a necessary evil if you want to add to your family through adoption. If you have any issues with your adoption, it’s important that you talk with the adoption agency to find out more about the problems you’re facing. Adoption isn’t for everyone because of the price and the time involved just to get your new baby home, but it is definitely worth the effort for individuals who either cannot have children naturally or want to help in the fight against kids put into the foster care system.

 

Mother in Open Adoption Describes Process

Amy Seek recently submitted a moving piece to the New York Times where she discussed the realities of open adoption. Seek, a New Jersey architect who lived in New York city during her college years, discussed her experiences with open adoption and, in doing so, revealed her great love for her birth son and his adoptive mother. The piece received a massive response by subscribers to the Times and Amy Seek has also penned a piece thanking readers for their overwhelming show of support and encouragement.

 

In her opinion editorial, Amy Seek describes the emotional process she went through when she decided to give her baby up for adoption, when she opted for an open adoption, and finally had to leave her child behind. Seek became pregnant when she was 23 years old and had already separated from the child’s father. She felt that she was not ready for children because she desired to pursue a career in architecture did not think she could complete this goal with a child. The father of the child was supportive of Seek during her pregnancy, and supported her decision to give the child up for adoption. Both Amy and the father of her child began the process of seeking an adoptive family.

 

Seek describes her meeting with her son’s future birth mother as one where she instantly knew they connected. Seek’s connection to her son’s birth mother extended to the present time. Seek now visits her son routinely as a part of their open adoption process. These visits are both joyous and painful for the architect. She describes her adoption decision as her greatest accomplishment and deepest regret. While she cannot be more pleased with the outcome of her son’s life and deeply respects his mother, she also realizes that she is now ready for children and hurts for her son’s presence in her life. Amy Seek’s story is a hopeful and painful, real life encounter with a courageous decision.

 

Texas Governor Signs Religious Freedom Adoption Bill Into Law

On Thursday, June 15, Texas Republican Governor Greg Abbot signed House Bill 3859 into law, protecting religious rights for faith-based adoption groups in state child welfare programs.

 

The new law will allow faith-based groups that work with the Texas child welfare system to deny services, including foster placement and adoption, under any circumstances that “conflict with the provider’s sincerely held religious beliefs.”

 

Critics of the bill, including Democrats and civil rights groups, claim the bill will allow private, faith-based child welfare groups to discriminate against parents who are of a different religion or who are gay, lesbian, or bisexual.

 

There are currently more than 30,000 children in the foster care system in Texas. Many children in the state age out of the system “more damaged than when they entered,” said one federal judge in a ruling that Texas violated the constitutional rights of foster children. After exiting the system, many former foster children face homelessness, drug addiction, unemployment, and incarceration.

 

Proponents of the new law, including the bill’s sponsor, Representative James Frank, say the law will help children find homes.

 

Frank said the purpose of the Freedom to Serve Children law is to get more people working in child welfare. Rather than exclusion, the law is designed to offer protection to prospective foster and adoptive parents and child welfare workers who have been discriminated against for their religious believes.

 

Frank and other supporters of the bill have said the result should be an increase in foster homes by the end of the year to address the shortage of foster homes as well as adoptive families in Texas.

 

Texas joins several other states that have passed faith-based protective adoption agency laws, including Alabama, Michigan, North Dakota, Virginia, and South Dakota, which passed a similar law this year.