A 18-year-old woman from China did not know that she was adopted until she was diagnosed with cancer. The woman, whose name is Peng Xin, is now trying to find her biological parents. She needs to have a bone marrow transplant and hopes that her parents will be a match. Peng underwent a variety of tests in order to diagnose her illness. That was when she found out that her parents were not her biological parents.
Peng will receive chemotherapy, which can extend her life by up to 10 months. However, she will eventually need to get a bone-marrow transplant. Peng’s adoptive mom stated that they have raised their daughter since she was an infant. They decided to keep the adoption a secret.
The woman stated that they were not wealthy and already had two children. However, they decided to take the infant in anyway because she would not have made it. Peng’s mom stated that they never intended to tell her about the adoption. They were forced to tell Peng the truth once they found out that she needed to have a bone marrow transplant.
Peng’s classmates have put together a video sharing her story. The video has pictures of Peng growing up. They hope that the video will reach their parents. One of the classmates stated that Peng may not have know about her biological parents if it had not been for her illness.
A classmate also stated that Peng is not only dealing with the pain of her illness, but she is also dealing with an emotional setback. They also stated that they do not know how Peng will deal with this, and they want to help her.
February 9th opens the 2018 Winter Olympics in PyeongChang, South Korea. While the festivities will bring athletes and spectators from across the globe, one special group will be coming home. For a group that left as orphans decades ago, this will be their first time stepping upon the shores of their homeland, and that makes these Olympic ceremonies even sweeter.
It is no secret that South Korea has had a large number of foreign adoptions since the 1950s. Beginning with the biracial lovechildren of the Korean War, others were quickly added that did not meet the expectations of the starkly conversative nation. This includes female infants, as well as children of families with more than two children and unwed mothers. The peak in South Korea’s foreign adoptions occurred around the 1988 Summer Olympics in Seoul. The number of foreign adoptions steadily decreased after the country’s 2007 to 2013 adoption legislation which limited the number of foreign adoptions, set a five month waiting period, and encouraged home country priority adoptions.
Although adoptive parents love adopted children as their own, some adoptees still feel a desire to know about their birth families and where they came from. This need for ancestral roots is what inspired Keziah Park of the International Korean Adoptee Service to arrange the Olympic Homecoming. The week-long trip includes athletic events and seats at the Opening Ceremonies.
The trip will also include a visit with one special Olympic athlete, Marissa Brandt. Marissa understands what it is like to be an adoptee. She was adopted at four years old and moved to the US. After college, she became a dual citizen and is now playing on South Korea’s women’s ice hockey team.
Ms. Park hopes trip guests will connect with other adoptees and find the ties they’ve been looking for.
Delilah, who is a radio show host, is now back on the air. She took a break after her son, Zack, passed away last fall. She stated that losing Zack was hard, but it did bring the family closer together. She also stated that her daughter found out that she was pregnant before Zack died.
This is the second child that Delilah has lost in the past five years. Her son Sammy died from sickle cell anemia in 2012. Zack committed suicide after a long battle with depression. A listener asked Delilah about books that they should read in order to cope with the loss of a child. She stated that there was not any book that could help.
Delilah also stated that the suggestions that people make have not helped her. She stated that being there for someone is the only thing that can help. Delilah is getting ready to adopt her 14th child. She had three biological children and 10 adopted.
There are 487,000 children who are in foster care. Only 5 percent of these children will have a forever home. She stated that adoption has been a blessing because many of the children would not have a home. She also stated that raising her children has been her world.
Delilah has given some advice that can help people who are going through a difficult ordeal. She stated that no one should go through life sweating the small things. She stated that when you sweat the small things, you take the joy out of living. Delilah’s show comes on The Sound 94.1 from 10 a.m. to 3 p.m. Monday through Friday. She also has a show from 7 p.m. to 12 a.m. on Friday and Saturday.
The process of adoption can be equally challenging and beautiful for all parties involved. Adoptive parents often wonder if they are doing enough for their children in terms of emotional support and physical provision, and adoptive kids tend to struggle with feelings of worthlessness and abandonment. However, it’s possible for adoptive families to find a “rhythm” that works for them, especially when parents understand where their children are coming from.
It’s important for adoptive parents to keep in mind that each child will have different feelings about his/her adoption. Some will be grateful that their birth parents gave them up; others will be resentful. Some adopted children may experience hurt and confusion because of the adoption, and will express this in a number of ways. Adoptive parents should be willing to let their children communicate their feelings, and constantly provide a sense of security to reaffirm to their children that they have a place to call home.
Adoptive parents should also let go of any embarrassment or shame that comes with adopting children. In some social circles, not being able to or choosing not to have biological children is frowned upon. People may also look at adoptive parents with skepticism if they choose to adopt children of a different race. Adoptive parents should treat their children as if they gave birth to them, no matter what anyone thinks. Children who have been adopted likely already have insecurities and are self-conscious, and when they see their parents give in to social pressure, there could be negative psychological effects. Children need a sense of normalcy, and everyone needs and deserves to be loved.
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For many families who choose to adopt to add to their families, it is a time that is filled with emotion on so many levels. For Millie Holloman, this rang uitwntrue. Like many who choose adoption after fostering, she wanted to celebrate the finalization. Many adoptive parents photograph the big “gotcha day” as a way to remember the moments their child first joined their family. Mille wanted to take it a step further and include all the people who played a part in bringing her daughter, Vera Wren, to her. So she brought along a letter board and a photographer, and included all the people who helped to make it possible, from the judge who performed the ceremony, to the adoption attorney, to the social worker, to various friends and family of Mille. They all held up the board that noted their particular role in helping the adoption story reach its happy ending. The series of photographs finished out with a smiling Vera Wren with the letter board noting that after 1,070 days in the foster care system, she was finally adopted!
Millie Holloman notes that she believes it takes a village to come together and raise a child. These people were her village when it meant the most. She shares the photos on her personal Facebook page and writes a little message with each one, detailing in a shortened version just how important every person in the pictures is to her adoption story. She thanks them for helping her create a happy ending and for being incredibly amazing allies for her sweet daughter. She hopes such a photo shoot helps to shed some light on adoption and how important foster families truly are in the whole process.
A happy story indeed.
Adopted brothers and sisters sometimes never meet each other. Although this is sad, there are times when adopted brothers or sisters meet in adult life, with or without the intervention of their adopted or biological parents. Kieron Graham did not expect to find his long lost relatives, but his adopted mother gave him a 23andme DNA kit. He took the test and the results showed the political science major at at Kennesaw University. The test results came back. It showed him that his closest living relative, his brother, was a man named Vincent. As it turns out, Vincent was also studying political science at Kennesaw University, according to babble.com
The pair met up quickly and reconnected. The discovery also gave Vincent a chance to meet his biological parents. Graham’s adoptive mother’s gift gave him a chance to reconnect to to his birth parents and find out more about his family and his heritage. Kieron says he held no hostility towards the family of his birth, and that he just wanted to meet them.
The test results gave the adoptive son a chance to meet his other siblings as well. DNA testing kits have been an interesting way of proving ancestry and seeing if a family’s genealogies align with the genetic information. Stories of adoptive families reuniting are becoming more common because of the services offered by these companies.
23andme and similar DNA testing services made headlines earlier this year. Although it was barely noticed in the controversy over Chancellorsville, many white supremacists were using the tests to prove their racial purity. The results seldom came back the way the white supremacists using the tests would have liked. Few people have the pure heritage the white supremacists say is necessary.
It has been a very long and difficult road for Carson Petersen. The 18-year-old has been in and out of the foster care system since his mother killed herself when he was only three. He was briefly taken care of by his biological father. However, that did not go well and Carson wound up back in foster care again. Carson admits that he started to lose hope of ever belonging to a family like most people. However, his dream finally came true when he was officially adopted by Renee and Tex Petersen. The adoption was made official at the Fresno County Superior Court on June 30th. Carson is currently a senior in high school.
Carson has actually been a part of the Petersen’s family since 2014. However, Carson asked his foster parents to officially adopt him late last year. They knew how much such a gesture would mean to Carson. The Petersens have a biological son, Hunter, who is 18 as well. They also have a young son and daughter who are both adopted. Carson hopes that his story can be an inspiration to kids who still find themselves in the foster care system after many years. He believes that it is very important to never give up hope.
Carson does not have any plans for his immediate future. He is not sure if he wants to attend college. He just wants to focus on spending time with his family right now. The family has a vacation to Europe planned for later this year. Carson has never been able to travel outside of the United States. Needless to say, he is very excited about this new adventure in his life. Carson did admit that he wants to learn a foreign language because he is interested in other cultures.
Many children struggle to find a stable set of parents in the foster care system. Most parents who are interested in adopting want a very young child. This makes it very difficult for children over the age of eight to get people to be interested in adopting them. This often causes them to languish in the foster care system for many years. Studies have shown that children who spend a large portion of their childhood in a foster home often commit crimes and do poorly in school. Fortunately, Carson did not fall into either of those categories. He is a great student.
Same-sex couples and single people have been discriminated for a long time, especially regarding adoption of children. However, in Queensland, the Labor bill passed the reform of the state’s adoption laws after a debate with the esteemed Speaker casting the final vote. Therefore, same sex couples and couples seeking fertility treatments were allowed to register themselves on the adoption register.
Insights of the Supporting Party
Shannon Fentiman, a famed Government minister, expressed her joy of passing the bill that previously discriminated the same-sex couples. She mentioned that Queensland community had prevented these individuals from meeting the needs of children through adoption. She added that children’s needs should be prioritized and met without considering the parents’ sexuality or their single status. Shannon cited that these individuals encouraged a positive relationship and a nurturing and supportive home for children.
The Opposition Party’s Views
Ros Bates, an opposition MP, cited that the action of allowing adoption of children by same-sex couples was because of the minimum number of adoptions in Queensland annually. Bates also argued that Queensland had a limited number of children seeking adoption; therefore, it was inadequate to guarantee a relaxation of the adoption eligibility criteria.
A Touching Testimony
Steven Miles, a well-known Labor MP, cited that he was aware of a same-sex couple that became foster parents to a young boy. The couple nurtured and loved him despite his worst behaviors. As a result, the boy learned to understand and reciprocate their love. Steven mentioned that the young boy is currently proud of the couple and wants them to officially adopt him since they helped him overcome his sad past during the last five years. The Queensland bill of same-sex couples and single people’s adoption rights has earned the state popularity, unlike the Northern Territory of Australia and South Australia that still prohibits adoption by same-sex couples.
ABC News reported on 18 July that an 18-year-old who had been in foster care for over 13 years had been adopted into a forever home. According to this article http://abcnews.go.com/Lifestyle/18-year-spent-13-years-foster-care-adopted/story?id=48679708 Carson Petersen, an 18-year-old young man from Fresno was adopted by his foster parents Rex and Renee Petersen after having spent over 13 years oscillating between foster homes. He was placed into the foster system at three years of age when his biological mother took her own life. Carson Petersen has been put under the care of his biological father five years later when he was eight, but three years down the line he was homeless in the street. Thus he was brought back into the foster system.
After moving from one foster home to another and experimenting with drugs and alcohol for a short while, Carson met the Petersens. He says that his life changed for the better from that point on as they are a Christian family that believes in him and sees the best in him. Even through hardships and challenges, this family never gave up on him, treating him like one of theirs. He says that he was happy that he was made to feel like he belonged, and was grateful for the love that he was shown. That is why he requested them to adopt him right before Christmas of 2016.
Rex Petersen says that it was a no-brainer. They had lived with Carson since 2014 and had come to like him for his good nature and natural instinct to help people. They said that they considered Carson as their son and were happy to make that fact official. Rex stated that it is devastating to watch kids go through the foster system, moving from one home to another and back into the system. He was only happy to provide a home to one and give their life meaning. The adoption was formalized on June 30th at the Fresno County Superior Court.